There are many strategies to be employed in each moment as we encounter and engage with our children. But the tools will only be effective if we understand that the best way to deep connection is to suspend judgment and criticism. My hope is that you achieve a sense of internal fulfillment and deep satisfaction as you learn to connect with, and find joy in your relationships with the most important people in your world.
I hope to provide strategies that can help you become more enlightened, but strategies alone will not work without fundamental shifts in thinking:
- WE ARE NOT IN CONTROL OF OUR CHILDREN AND THAT INSTEAD WE MUST WALK THIS PATH OF GROWTH BESIDE THEM WITHOUT THE TRADITIONAL FEELINGS OF AUTHORITY OR SUPERIORITY OVER THEM.
- LOVING OUR CHILDREN IS NOT ENOUGH; WE MUST GET OFF THEIR BACKS AND ON THEIR SIDES. THIS REQUIRES GREAT ACCEPTANCE OF THEIR ESSENCE IN ITS TRUE STATE. TO DO SO, WE MUST SUSPEND OUR JUDGMENT AND CRITICISM.
- WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT WE DID NOT BRING OUR CHILDREN INTO THIS WORLD TO SATISFY OUR OWN DEEP NEEDS FOR PRAISE AND ACCEPTANCE, OR TO TRY TO SATISFY OUR OWN UNMET EMOTIONAL NEEDS.